As Christmas draws closer staying balanced at such a busy time of year can provide a challenge. Often the pressures from expectations, those of ourselves and others adds to the the workload we  all carry. Causing some of us to spend the holidays stressed and anxious when to add to the stress, we should be happy. The added challenge of a recent loss or bereavement for some is often magnified at this time of year. Those people who would have been a special part of the season are no longer with us. Often leaving some of us feeling vulnerable. Those little rituals or routines that used to make Christmas special to us are no more. That person, that space, the ability to do what we have done before has changed. And change whether we want or not,  is happening, Christmas will be different. Creating a new Christmas when we are feeling this way can be difficult. Working with my clients at this time of year I often start looking at things that they can do.Simple changes, aspects that may not have thought about before.  Or even things that could stay the same. Often the empty chair, plate or cup can be used as a nod to the change.    A new ornament for the tree or a 5 minute break to reflect can become just a special way to remember those who are no longer with us. However you choose to spend this time of year though I hope you are kind to yourself. Spending time looking after yourself and those around you. And doing what feels right for you.